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Can We Talk About Offendability?

July 19, 2018 By Kristin Saatzer 3 Comments

Junior High School called and it wants its hurt feelings back. 

Image result for google images middle school hallway

 

 

 

 

 

 

Oh, Middle school. This demographic gets a bad rap sometimes, but I (usually) enjoy these humans, even though extra grace is often required.

This stage of life is challenging for most. Many kids ooze insecurity, hold grudges, exaggerate stories, gossip, bully, and think narrow-mindedly.

Hmmm… Sounds like some grown-ups, doesn’t it?

Those of us active on social media see this type of behavior daily. It is oftentimes a mean scene on the World Wide Web, and  in Junior High. Offense Gone Wild. Only, from my perspective, the kids aren’t as jaded as the adults and they forgive easier.

I was  unfriended on Facebook for not liking someone’s celebration post, for not inviting someone to lunch, and blocked because I left an organization. I was reviled for my Christian faith and shunned because of a misunderstood family dynamic. Ah… the fun of social media.

My internet and other “real life”experiences, trained me to tiptoe around certain people, to consider my message at length before I speak, post, or send a text or email. I find myself  worried that I might cause hurt feelings, even by the most casual-type of spoken or written word. I am a pleaser peacemaker and  I  fret that I may unintentionally offend these persons by just being me.

It is exhausting.

Most of us have experienced, seen, and yes, inflicted offense in life and online.  One of my favorite books is Unoffendable by Brant Hansen. Here is the quote from the dedication page of the book:

“To all those who want grace for themselves but struggle to extend it to others.

Wait: that’s everybody.”

God is funny sometimes. As I jotted down notes for this post, a discussion took place between my twenty-one-year-old son and me. He asked me to stop making  dentist and doctor appointments for him, he said he wants to make them from now on, and explained his reason. I was somewhat offended! My feelings, injured for a few minutes (because Mom knows best) until I laughed at the timing, and let the  hurt melt away.

My word of the year is Surrender. One of my intentions this summer is in this area of offense. I strive  towards a deeper  compassion for the insecure, the  offender, the grudge holder, the bully, the gossip, and the “unfriender”. Their actions betray a need for love. Their grudges show deep pain in deep places.

Secondly, I recognize that I must be me. I do not have the stamina or brainpower to walk on co-dependent tiptoes. This is not healthy. Furthermore, I choose to step in  unoffendable  shoes. And, tomorrow,  when another son comes along with a mom issue, another family member decides to cast me out of their life, or I get  unfriended, I will choose  again to step back in those shoes. Extra grace is required along with humility, empathy, and prayer. Grace upon grace, just as God has given me.

Thanks for  calling and asking for your hurt feelings back Junior High, we can learn much from you and yours. However, it is time to move on.

Dear Lord,

We live in a world ripe with hurt, abrasive judgments, intolerance, and offense. Remind us today that life is not about us. It is about you and extending your grace. Give us a heart for the hurting as we recognize their pain in their negative words and actions. Help us to respond in a healthy way to people in our lives. Thank you for showering us with grace upon grace. It is to your glory that we overlook offenses.

Amen

Reflection verses:  

  • Isaiah 61:1
  • Matthew 5:44
  • Ephesians 4:32
  • Colossians 3:13

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Filed Under: Can We Talk About?, Devotionals, Surrender Tagged With: #branthansen, #unoffendable, Grace, Intentionality, offendability, Surrender

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  1. Kimberly Lucas says

    July 19, 2018 at 8:41 pm

    Very good thoughts my friend. I love it. It is not easy to look beyond our own insecurities to what may be going on for that person that we are feeling offended by, By the sleekit just get outside of ourselves and look down on the situation so to speak , Good helps a** and also God could really use us more so to help them as we could look at things more objectively instead of subjectively. Thanks for sharing

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    • Kristin Saatzer says

      July 20, 2018 at 5:26 pm

      True. Love you.

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  2. Jeni says

    July 21, 2018 at 10:04 pm

    I am offended by this blog. Just kidding! Why is it so much easier to be offended and to judge than it is to extend grace and forgiveness?
    Social media can be one big middle school nightmare. But it can be fun if we can shake of being “unfriended” and the occasional hurtful comment or post.
    Great blog as usual!

    P.S. I will never unfriend you Sister!

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